Fancy words ended here
Where there’s no love or hate
Sense no doubt or fear
There new days wait
Fancy dreams don’t fly
Where the eyes break contact
Feel no chill or dry
There defeated by fact
Into reality walking
After the horse is dead
No use of keep on whipping
Move on and lift head
Into reality by tomorrow
After this one is written
No tear for joy or sorrow
Move on and be forgotten
Gerimis kecil membasahi hatiku
Mengapa sampai hari ini belum laku
Di saat usia menjelang petang
Mengapa kekasih tak jua datang
Gerimis kini berganti hujan
Mengapa tak mau singgah, tuan
Di sini aku membuka hati
Mengapa tuan tak mengerti
Hujan membuat dingin dan basah
Dan jiwaku semakin resah
Ingin rasanya punya gebetan
Supaya aku nikah cepetan
Hujan menyiram hati yang gersang
Dan kulitku semakin usang
Ingin rasanya operasi plastik
Supaya aku makin cantik
Setiap hari life goes on
Tetapi sambil periksa handphone
Teman lama belum ku-delete
Siapa tau diajak nge-date
Setiap bulan terus kuhitung
Tetapi status masih gantung
Teman teman, tolongin please
Siapa tau ada yang manis
Di laut masih banyak ikan
Coba saya dikenalkan
Siapa tau ada yang cocok
Siapa aja, bisakah besok?
Di sini ada pantun lucu
Coba kamu baca dulu
Siapa tau bisa terhibur
Siapa yang nulis? jangan kabur!
***
+ yoDi +
What is rhetoric?
The linguistic talent, the mastery
of communication, the skill needed
for orators, writers, politicians,
or even anyone… yes, YOU!
How to win arguments?
Want to influence others?
Can you make them adore you?
Those are your questions, right?
well… let’s learn something
Greek today.
Listen to what Aristotle taught.
There are 3 important elements
when you’re delivering arguments.
- Logos
- Pathos
- Ethos
***
Logos is about the FACT AND LOGIC.
Are you saying the right thing?
And.. where are the sources of info?
How can those facts be concluded?
And.. what’s the summary of all?
Can these be proven to be true?
And.. what if in the end it’s wrong?
Those are the simple questions,
ask yourself before you’re preparing
any presentation.
***
Pathos is about how you WIN
your listeners’ HEART.
It’s about appearance, gesture,
dressing or grooming, speaking
the proper language and how
you present yourself to be
acceptable to the audience.
When Fabio Capello was introduced
as new England coach, the first
thing he did.. learn how to speak
English.
When Jimmy (Eminem, in 8 Mile)
was about to perform as rapper
on a duel of insults,
he put on the right costume,
speak with black accent and
using slangs which familiar to
the hip-hop community.
Or as the famous quote from St.Paul
said, "When in Rome, I behave like
Romans."
Now we know this proverb:
When in Rome, do as Romans do.
***
Ethos, is about WHO YOU ARE
Character, personality, experience,
background of education, reputation,
expertise, specialization, achievement,
existence, etc.
Those things are also important.
Are you trustworthy, capable,
deserved, the right and suitable
figure.. to say something?
That’s the explanation.
"Where are we going?
What will we do?
How will we solve the crisis?"
These phrases….
They would have different meanings,
if it said by the someone
to his/her spouse.
Context: Their relationship
And compare it if
it’s said by the same person as
president in front of his/her cabinet.
Context: Meeting to make new policy
That’s what ETHOS, it’s about
who you are… related to what
you’re going to say.
***
Those are the three elements, now
if you stil have more time…
I’ll teach you how to win the
battle of LOGOS
A good argument must have reasoning
and backed-up with the right
examples, facts or evidences.
A-R-E-C
Argument-Reasoning-Examples-Conclusion
"This blog is very useful and
interesting (A)
Because it gives me a lot of information (R)
Here I can read nice articles and
poetries. For example, this one (E)
I’m gonna read further and I will
send the link to my friends. (C)"
That’s DEDUCTIVE.. from a general
concept, explained into details,
and concluded.
now the opposite is INDUCTIVE…
Many examples listed, then all those
facts are indicators of something
and here comes the argument, which
is also the conclusion.
E-R-A-C
Examples-Reasoning-Argument-Conclusion
"I’ve read some of the poems here,
some are written and several languages,
in English, Italian and Spanish
This blog is not only about fancy
words, I also learn about many
life-skills I’ve never been taught
before (E)
Only few people can speak more
than one language, and the materials
he wrote here.. he can conclude
the core from books he read,
he read and write a lot.. (R)
And that’s why he wrote a title
for his blog "Read, write, re-write…"
(A) The writer of this blog must be
a brilliant guy (C)."
How self-serving and narcissistic
is this guy… (another conclusion)
Haha…
The lesson is… make sure you
deliver something in the format
of A-R-E-C or E-R-A-C
Don’t just suddenly jump into conlusion!
***
Be careful with absolutism…
Select words wisely.. especially
when you use:
-all, none
-always, never
-everything, nothing
"All men are liars."
What if there is an honest guy,
me for example…
"You never read my blog."
But now I can make you read more
and more… read also the poem
"Never believe in never"
"She’s smart, she can do everything."
Everything without limit, I doubt that.
***
The next is.. NON SEQUITUR, it’s
a latin phrase, literally it says
"Not following"
Give the right examples from
your argument. Make the right
conclusion out of your gathered
facts.
If you fail, that’s what is called
as NON SEQUITUR
***
Generalization and localization.
Ingat iklan ini?
"Semua orang pakai oli …."
(Pelumas nomor satu, katanya)
"Semua orang pakai … ngapain beda?"
(Iklan penyedia jasa sambungan ponsel)
Gimana kalo ternyata ada yang
pake merek yang beda?
Atau sebaliknya
"Nyamuk sini cuma takut…"
Gimana nyamuk yang di sana?
***
Unproven facts
Sesuatu yang belum terbukti
ga bisa dijadikan bahan argumen.
Inter Milan adalah tim terkuat
karena belum terkalahkan.
But last weekend, Napoli crushed
them. It’s not proven yet.
***
Korelasi
Dua peristiwa berurutan, namun
ga menjamin ada keterkaitan atau
hubungan sebab-akibat.
"Tuh kan jadi turun hujan,
habis dari tadi kamu nangis terus sih."
Apa hubungannya?
Hujan terjadi karena awan ngumpul,
ga nyambung deh…
"Lalu lintas macet karena ada
demonstrasi di depan Monas."
Mungkin ada hubungannya, tapi
masih bisa dibantah. Tiap hari
walau ga ada demo pun, jalanan
sering macet, bisa aja karena
ada sebab lain (lampu merah rusak,
jumlah kendaraan terlalu banyak, dll)
***
Let’s move topic into PATHOS…
Learn the value of your audience.
When a president of a country
in front of church members, he spoke
"We believe…"
"We are called…"
"It is the price that we must pay…"
"We must sacrifice…"
Those phrases are what appealing to
the ears of Christian community.
"We believe we must attack ..
(other country who was accused
as the terrorists)
We are called to defend our country.
It is the price that we must pay
to see the bright future.
Therefore we must sacrifice, and
our soldiers already did as we
sent them to that country."
Remember a name? and the country?
Use local dialect if you can.
When Frank Rijkaard signed as
coach of Barcelona, in the first
press conference.. he greeted with
Spanish. But.. there, they speak
Catalan. The next occasions, he
used more Catalan dialect.
Dress-up accordingly.
Remember.. when in Rome, dress-up
also like Romans
Try to do mirroring.
Imitate some part of the other’s
gesture, mimic and movement.
But not too obvious… this isn’t
for a comedy show.
Be a good listener and paraphrase.
Ask when you don’t understand, make
the other felt proud as able to
explain and act smart.
***
Now… ETHOS, is about your
personality and skill.
It would be silly to preach about
how dangerous cigarettes are, while
the audience know you’re a smoker.
Compare this, me (an ordinary
employee) to a well-known figure
who had wrote a lot and has established
companies…
Let’s say,
Mr.Hermawan Kartajaya or
Mr.Rheinald Kasali
We are teaching about marketing,
let’s say in a seminar.
The content is the same, but
WHO SAYS IT makes the contrast!
People will pay more to listen
to a famous figure in a speech.
***
Develop those three aspects…
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Modes_of_persuasion
Improve your LOGOS to deliver
your message.
Make them feel "we are alike"
by appealing to PATHOS
Build your ETHOS so that
people will trust you and
what you’re saying.
Thanks to Aristotle who had inspired
Jay Heinrichs who wrote
THANK YOU FOR ARGUING.
Nice book!
+ yoDi +
The girl who smiled like this
She has the intention
With her lips ready to kiss
But where’s the action?
The girl who played his heart
She has the X-factor
With her love miles apart
But where’s the doctor?
The girl who felt so sick
She needed cure of course
With her doctor who would pick
But where’s the red rose?
The girl who read this rhyme
She might laugh in irony
With her waiting in time
But where’s the pony?
The girl who think about future
She might move far far away
With new nationality in picture
But where’s the plan for today?
Stop daydreaming
Be sure you know what to do
Start studying
And wait until he comes for you
Start practicing
Be sure you know what to say
Stop imagining
And trust everything within your pray
+ yoDi +
http://profiles.friendster.com/mistkuebel
C’est pour toi, Redtea…
As climbers went together
We were separated midst way
Trying to find each other
On a misty hillroads, stray
The fog is creeping thick
We were lost but we knew
Trying to the promise, stick
On a rock damped with dew
Wait and sit here
Don’t try to search, be still
Cause our sight isn’t clear
It could be cliff on the next hill
Wait and have trust
Don’t rush to walk or run
Cause our hope would last
It could be love under the sun
Through prayers and words taken
We’ll see the mountain top
Within our steps unshaken
And some sweats drop
Through metaphor here written
We’ll finish this hike
Within times unforgotten
And it’s you I always like
+ yoDi +
"Si, è anche una storia tra noi..J’attends pour toi…"
There is no such thing as forever
It’s just moment undecided
So does when you say never
Cause hours are provided
There is no such thing as always too
It’s just moments you had maintained
So does when you know what to do
Cause hours passed can’t be retained
When yesterday kills your feeling
Look where you have crashed and burned
Whether you woke or not from falling
Time can’t be returned
When today gives you a knock
Look where you must start kicking
Whether you care or not the clock
Time is always ticking
When tommorow won’t brightly shine
Look where you’ll finish your mission
Whether you’ll touch or not the finish line
Time will be illusion
Never say never
Be careful with saying always
Cause you don’t live forever
You can only count your days
Never too late
Be tactful with what you live
Cause you can’t control fate
You can only take and give
Never bitter tone
Be graceful with your friend
Cause you don’t dig your grave alone
You will have them to watch your end
Never live empty
Be fruitful with what you do
Cause you can’t be always healthy
You will leave them legacy too
Never believe in never
Cause life offers changes a lot
Always know there’s no forever
Just have enough with what you got
Always have faith and purity
Cause life goes on once you die
Always aim for eternity
Just live today with more to try
+ yoDi +
Here’s a lesson for you all:
Always have a back-up plan!
My friend, Cathy, suddenly wanted to cancel
her plan to join the British Council
program. Is it the end of the world
for me?
Absolutely no!
I’ve found a substitute for her.
I met Melinda in 2004, she’s a Gfresh!
reader and I offer her the chance
to use the outline I’ve posted here.
And… she’s a real punch!
She kicks back to my inputs,
much stronger.. with her brilliance
and charm.
http://profiles.friendster.com/melindabarus
Prepare to rock your mind!
Cause, today, I’m presenting you
the result of my coaching.
A new writer?
Maybe, but only to answer some
tricky questions which might
bring her to join the program.
Cathy, you’ll regret this…
***
9. HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR ETHNIC ORIGIN (i.e. Javanese, Sundanese, Bugis, Bataknese, Dayaknese, Papuans, Ambonese, Chinese, Malay, etc)?
Please specify
I am a Karonese as my both parents are. Karo is one of six sub-cultures in
North Sumatra which are popularly known as Bataknese (another five are:
North Tapanuli /Toba,
South Tapanuli , Simalungun, Dairi, and Nias). Most people I know do not recognize my ethnicity until I explain to them. As far as I remembered, I often explain my Karo-knowledge to others, because they usually thought my culture is the same with Batak Toba’s. In contrary, we, Karonese, differ with Batak Toba in many aspects; language, custom belief, food, dance, etc. But there are general similarities between these two sub-culture; we have a big concern of family relativity and we also have such a unique family position one to another (like ‘kasta’ in India, but more flexible) that has always coloured special occasions like engagement, wedding, or even a dance party. I see my own ethnicity as a special part of myself that I should feel proud of. I always thought that every people should also understand and love their own ethnicity. If everybody does, then it will be the foundation in respecting others’, knowing that other people also have the same concern to their own culture just as we do.
You did good! Uniqueness can be a spice…
12. WHY ARE YOU INTERESTED IN APPLYING FOR GLOBAL XCHANGE?
I am interested in applying to Global Xchange, briefly, because I am concerned about world peace, and the way we see it. Leaders all over the world shout it. The beautiful-brainy-behaved Miss Worlds never forget adding it into speeches. We dream of it, and we also pray for it. Maybe it is not an exaggeration to say that we’ve been searching the world peace everywhere, yet we haven’t really found it. Wars are still everywhere as negative stereotypes continue to develop. Unfortunately, it seems that we only consider those two-words as cliché; we fail to see the foundation needed to create that concept. The foundation is: to be aware of the diversity of culture and to be aware to the culture of diversity. Realizing that this world consists of various cultures is only the beginning. Furthermore, we need to coexist in a culture of diversity; a system of norms, values and beliefs held by individual members of a community that are mutually receptive and complementing (Prof. Hans S. Park). Once we comprehend how important this is, we then need to actively work hand in hand starting it.
Respectively, we must be exposed to and trained in such a global environment to that goal mentioned before. I think Global Xchange (GX) comes up as an answer responding to that global need. By joining this culture-concerned programme, the participants are riding on the right vehicle; they are carried into a whole new concept of building a peaceful world. In my own experience, I may have tasted the concept in my current office. Working in a television company, I describe my friends and me are practically a united diversity. We come from various educational backgrounds, unlike other televisions which usually employ only graduations majoring in communication/broadcasting. Inside this company I work for, we can find agricultural graduations, then there are astronomers, chemicals, also economists who determine themselves working in their new area; television broadcasting. Yes, we do work in the culture of diversity concept. Most of us find it difficult, of course. Because aside from having to adapt to a new office, an economic graduation for example, should also quickly master every details of television business; he/she is forced to be able to work with the same pace with another multidisciplinary employee. The economist then should put his/her economic theories aside, to the sake of the new value he/she might considered as unimportant before: rating performance. This new important concept proves to create a healthy environment between the economist, me, and all other friends. It then diminish gap whatsoever, as we collaborate together in a good teamwork.
Consequently, what GX bring in to the world (especially to the society of
Indonesia and the
UK ) is in the same concept with what I found in my office, in a wider spectrum even more. When we determine ourselves to the culture of diversity through this visionary programme, we should commit only to it and put our background aside. Living in a totally different place and people from our own would become a great opportunity to begin the big agenda: world peace.
If I am selected in GX, I would use this programme as a medium to what Maslow characterized as self-actualization. Self-actualization is the instinctual need of humans to make the most of their abilities and to strive to be the best they can. Whether they want it or not, self-actualizing people would embrace the facts and realities of the world, they would have a system of morality that is fully internalized, and they would be creative. Within the programme’s tasks, self-actualization could form in applying the education and experience gained.
Communication is power. Those who have mastered its effective use can change their own experience of the world, and the world’s experience on them.(Anthony Robbins) What the participants should do after volunteering for Global Xchange is to communicate it with local communities; to pass the empowerment to the society they belong. A new concept of facing differences then will occur, locally in the beginning, then spreading widely, and in that order: globally.
So, GX is a very valuable programme to join and to be succeeded that I and even everyone should be interested to apply.
You’re slapping everyone!
13. WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU COULD BRING TO GLOBAL XCHANGE?
These can include any interests, voluntary or community work experience or personal qualities you have.
The first time I saw the Global Xchange information in the British Council site, the only picture placed in that page makes me interested. I assume it was one of GX’s social activities in an Indonesian village. There we can see three people holding seeds of rice, preparing to plant them in a watery field. It can illustrate what the whole GX programme is all about. As those seeds need farmers to plant them in the right soil to make them grow, so do the messages that Global Xchange carries; they need messengers. Through the Global Xchange, trying to be a good messenger, I will give the best effort to learn how to choose the best soil, how to plant the seeds, and how to make my unemployed friends be interested in being a farmer. The knowledge from the six-months-activities will surely equipped me and hopefully, I could be a good role-model to my friends; trying to open their eyes to see many potential areas in
Indonesia that if being cultivated, would eventually grants big harvest.
Willing to learn new skills, I also commit myself to intercultural understanding. Being a teacher in the future is the plan I have for my future, it also motivates me to grip every opportunity and experience that I would get from Global Xchange. Those experiences will surely empower me and also my future students.
Along with the motivations described above, I also have the proud of being an Indonesian with a specific sub-culture. Knowing exactly how others would value their own origin, I would always do the tasks given during the programme with an empathetically perspective. In doing group tasks, as I used to solve problem as an individual as well as in teamwork, I will be able to work together with any group I’m being placed; making myself useful for the best outcome of the group would be my objective.
I have broadcasting knowledge, which might be needed in completing personal or group assignments, such as using video camera or doing simple video editing. I have a special interest in football and photography. In voluntary work experience, I once taught a group of child labour.
That’s cool!
14. In no more than 1000 words please tell us how you believe volunteers can help in tackling global issues?
Words can destroy. What we call each other ultimately becomes what we think of each other, and it matters. (Jeanne J. Kirkpatrick)
The 911 tragedy has widened the gaps occur between our international relationships. The most observable fact proving it is how the stereotypes held by each side of the western and the eastern world were considered as the truth. This condition manipulates our perceptions in daily lives. We tend to exaggerate our sensitivity if it comes to the matter of ideology, religion, origin, etc. We tend to see different perspectives as enemy. Sadly, most of us are being insensitive to cure this ill point of view. We are far from what I have mentioned earlier; the culture of diversity.
While building a skyscraper proudly, the citizens of
Babel were, in a sudden, having difficulties in understanding each other’s different languages. But apparently, being different (in languages) was the way out of their problem. Contrarily, being identical made them enter the negative deals area. One positive concept we could extract from
Babel ’s experience is: diversity could possibly create unity.
The condition of the ancient town
Babel probably is similar with what we are facing. We now deal with differences, but we have not set our mind to consider them as our way out of our problem. The big task, now, is to change the mindset of our societies, and it is not easy - the government and mass media alone will not be able doing it. To be an active society taking part in intercultural communications may be one way to change the mindset. And this is where volunteers can take place. These special agents have the important role; to be the representatives of their societies. They have certain values; they are generally hard workers and they have the willingness to do tasks in anywhere they’re being placed.
Among other things, volunteers are able to tackle global issues because they are committed to one vision: giving their best to their community. It is the concept that Buddhists known as the outcome of metta meditation; cultivating loving kindness towards all sentient beings. Every religion is actually teaching this great concept; Moslems recognize it as giving alms (in form of zakat, infaq, tzedakah, and also doing goods) to others, and Christians describe the concept as loving each other just as one loves his/herself. With the role of these volunteers, the practice in dealing with global issues would be done effectively.
The most suitable ones to be selected as volunteers are the young people. Why? There are many reasons why they have always been promoted to join global-activities. The most argumentative reason is because the fact that many of them being exploited by irresponsible person or groups. They are put in to the wars, child labour, getting unequal access to education and justice system. By putting them into the right prospectus place, we are empowering the youths, and in the same time, opposing to the exploitation of youths.
Another reason in choosing youth as volunteers: youths, of course, have longer life expectations than the adults. It makes them having the equipment to construct what to do with their future, and the world’s future as well. Positive inspirations in global issues such as concerning the culture of diversity, educations to poor-countries children, intercultural dialogue, global warming, etc in their young lives will be the foundation to build the new generation. Besides that, they are the ones who would become the future’s leader. Their psychological factor is the other reason. The age range they are at is the best time in forming their own identities. It is also the most effective time to maximize their learning and curiosity. Young people, too, have strong stamina and uplifted spirit that is very valuable in global issues collaborations.
Wow.. you develop a strong opinion from my outline.
Next…
15. In no more than 1000 words please describe your previous experience doing project with local communities. The description should indicate your role, the description of the project, the challenges, and the result.
Back when I attended my college, my campus regularly sends some students to be a volunteer to Jambore Anak Jalanan programme. This is an educative and entertaining weekend-camp made for labour children in
Jakarta , to honour Indonesian National Children Day. This week-end event is held by Sahabat Anak Institution to answer the essential need of many labour children in
Jakarta , which increasing rapidly in number. This local condition reflects the universal problem that hasn’t come to an end, despite the fact that the Convention on the Right of the Child stands globally. According to The UNICEF, Asia-Pacific region, including
Indonesia , ‘contribute’ the largest number of child workers in the 5-14 age group, 127.3 million in total.
For those reasons, Sahabat Anak focuses its work on labour children, with a vision to make the labour children understand that they are worthy for they are human beings that God has uniquely created. The mission is to gather people in becoming the children’s best friends. These vision and mission were raised to repair these youngsters’ negative self-concept; as they feel that they develop differently with their friends whose parents could afford them to attend school.
The JAJ theme I was involved in was Aku dan Lingkunganku, or Me and My Environment. I was required by the committee to be an accompanying-sister. It was a good time in spending the outbound activities and the games as Asih’s sister. Asih was a second-grade a little girl whose job was singing on buses. She did that to make money in order to help her parents’ financial. My role was to help Asih in whatever she needs during the jamboree, like explaining the things she asks, and also encouraging her in group activities she involved. Me and the other accompanying-sisters-and-brothers should always accompany our buddy and be by our buddy’s side for the rest two days. We sang, played games, took a walk to a zoo, and many interesting educative things. In general, the challenges of this program were many kids we gather did not want to be involved in any activities. But luckily the kids were not so hard to be taught. The result was that these kids knew that they could have brighter future by having education and by loving their own environment. The other result was that the committee got the chance to gather several children to a study group that will be taught by the institution’s volunteers after the jamboree event. My group and I visited our buddies several times after the event, teaching the lessons they find difficult at their school.
Yeah… that’s what they’re looking for.
An altruist!
***
You’ve done your best, Melinda…
Now, it’s already sent, pray and hope for the result!
And.. you, readers, friends…
Who’s next?
+ yoDi +
Another popular topic in
demand, dating stages.
Let’s see in which level
(country) are you now?
The first step is:
SPAIN
Sweet Passionate Admirer In
Neighbourhood
You realize that you like a
new person, and you keep
wondering if this is the one.
HOLLAND
Hold On, Let’s Look After Next Date
After the first meeting, there
will be possibilities
ENGLAND
Every New Girl/Guy Lead Another
New Date.
It means.. you’re not ready to
have a commitment.
Or….
GERMANY
Growing Exciting Romantic Movement
After New Year
You’re advancing! And still together
after changing the calendar
Good for you!
Next is.. FRANCE
Fully Responsible And Nice Companion
Everywhere
The relationship with its affections
must be balanced with reality
and mutual understanding.
Finally.. you’re in ITALY
I Trust And Love You.
Yes.. ITALY, that’s the ultimate
level! Remember the sequences…
SPAIN, then to HOLLAND.
Then you must choose:
moving away to ENGLAND
or getting closer to GERMANY?
And finally after visiting
FRANCE you will have to live
in ITALY!
+ yoDi +
Solitude will show you how
To comprehend why you are here
It’s refreshment you earn for now
And help you find what truly near
Take time to pray
Before you begin tomorrow
To start the new day
And leaving all your sorrow
Solitude can be a cure
To understand yourself better
It’s refreshing your mind for sure
And help you know what does matter
Take time to rest
Before you return for more
To see life as best
And becoming better than before
+ yoDi +
